Relationships is not always in a state of harmony, safe and sound. Occasional quarrels because of various reasons it happens naturally. Who is to blame when it eventually failed relationships?
According to a recent study conducted by the University of Texas, termyata women more often blame them for bickering couples and relationship failures occur. The research was conducted through a survey of 71 young unmarried couples in Texas, USA. All of the respondents who participated in this study has been in a relationship for three-year romance.
The respondents were asked to communicate with a partner who was in a separate room, via chat. They are required to communicate about the conflicts they face. Topics covered are conflict frequency of time spent together, the money spent, the last dating relationship, alcohol consumption, as well as friends and relatives who do not agree with their relationship.
The researchers gave 10 minutes for the couple to discuss this topic and get a solution. Later, they were required to express their hearts to the researcher. Before the study, they are also required to complete a questionnaire about their relationship satisfaction.
From there, seen that woman is a person who often pass the blame to your partner when dealing with conflict. And the biggest problem is about money and the past relationship partner. "This could happen because of the cognitive differences between men and women during an argument," said the leader as well as a professor of communication studies at the University of Texas, Dr. Anita Vangesti.
Behavior and attitude of blaming pair like this could be an indication of whether a woman was quite happy with the relationship or not. He added that the mind, and relationship dissatisfaction will affect a person's behavior. Humans often voiced their thoughts on the pair through the non-verbal messages, but speculate as this can affect the relationship satisfaction.
Dr. Vangesti revealed that when a person was unhappy with the relationship, they will react in different ways. For example, discussing the topic of this conflict, anger, and often change the subject, or even to avoid conflict.
When one partner made a mistake, and the other pair began to bring this over and over, both parties have the potential to not be happy in a relationship. When it is in an unsatisfactory relationship, they tend to think who is more powerful in the relationship. As a result they often complain and "scramble supreme power" in the relationship.
Conversely, people who are happy with their partner will not avoid conflict. "Among the happy couples, when one partner make mistakes, get angry, or do not agree with that partner, then the other spouse will think how to understand their partner and find ways to resolve the conflict," he added.
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